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One of the first decisions to be made when you sit down to write fiction is:

Shall I write in first, second or third person? The choice you make here is important to the effectiveness of your story.

First person is “I” or “We”.

Second person is “You”.

Third person is He, She, It, They”.

First person is used for a personal story, for sharing an experience you have had. You could also choose to use it for a purely fictional story, to make it feel more immediate. More about that later.

Second person is not often used in fiction. It’s common, though, in articles or blogs that tell you how to do something. “First you do this, then you do that and lastly you tie a big red bow on top of it.” “You” makes it more personal and immediate than saying “The widget goes on top of the lower bar”.

Third person is most generally used in the fiction you pick up in the library or buy from a book shop.

“Francesca swooned gracefully into his arms, her face pale. He lifted her gently to…”

You can see that writing that in the first person might cause questions in your family. “I swooned gracefully into his arms, my face pale. He lifted me gently to…”

Third person is the workhorse of most fiction. Writing in the third person you cannot get into any one person’s mind, but you can show all of the action. You are free to show almost anything anywhere in a “Meanwhile, back at the ranch” kind of way.

The downside of third person is that you can’t feel the feelings of any one person. You can show them – “Her shoulders drooped in despondency” or “He ran up the stairs two at a time and reached eagerly for the door knob.”

But third person cannot give you the deeper layers of feeling or of mixed feelings.  For this you need first person story telling.

There’s a reason that first person stories go over so well. It’s because they have the immediacy and power of the feelings behind the actions. We don’t just understand and enjoy the story, we ‘get’ the underlying emotion.

If the underlying feelings don’t matter much, if it’s all about the action and what happens next, then third person is both easiest to write and most effective.

But if your story is about feelings – if you want to demonstrate mixed feelings, if you want to show why someone did something that seems almost incomprehensible, if you want to focus on this person’s depth of love or fear or hatred – then first person is the way to go.

If you are uncertain, try the story both ways and see which feels right to you. There is no “correct” way. Just the most effective way to get your story across.

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As writers we try to collect interesting settings, complex characters and intriguing plots. Our eyes and ears are open to anything that might make a story or pull people into it so deeply that they can’t stop reading

Sometimes we forget the closest place to look. Not, perhaps, the easiest but the closest. Ourselves.

It’s easy enough to look at the people we know or have known with their conflicting and puzzling characteristics. Or looking at places we have known and tweaking them into a setting full of atmosphere and interest. Or remembering strange stories we have been told and devising ways to use them.

The part that is not easy is remembering our own stories and the emotion we felt at the time they happened. It might be a mistake we made. The feeling of embarrassment or humiliation is all too real when we recall it.

Or perhaps your puppy or kitten died. The memory of grief, maybe even guilt, is hard to face. We’d rather brush it aside and think about something less disturbing.

But the memory of that feeling – in addition to the event itself – has enriched your experience as a person and as a writer. Your feelings become part of you. Hiding them, burying them is neither healthy nor useful. Facing those deep feelings and even mining them validates your life experience and uses it to guide others.

Think back to the depths of the sadness – the tears that wouldn’t stop, the sick or sore feeling in your stomach. This needs to be part of your writing when you are showing your story character feeling his or her own sadness.

Painful as it is, you need to feel again your own sadness. If this sounds too depressing, remember that the feeling of happiness works the same way. Recall a time when you felt the height and depth of joy. Bring that to the story.

Whatever feeling you are expressing in your story you need to recall it at a gut level as you are writing it. Every feeling – fear, guilt, excitement – has its own sensations physically and mentally. Each is completely different and needs to be expressed as fully as you can.

Take time to re-visit in your mind the moments of action and drama in your life, recall the times when you felt happiness or laughter bubbling up in your chest.

You inner research is as important as the trip to the library. Only courageous inner research will bring honesty and  true life experience to your stories.

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That’s right. How do you feel right now? Relaxed? Happy? PO’d? Tired?

Take a moment to describe the feeling – at least in your mind and preferably on paper.

Feel that feeling. Really deep down feel it. How does it make your body feel? How does it affect your posture, the way you are sitting?

What happened to create this feeling? Think about the event or the factors that lie behind it.

If you have time, write all this. At the very least it will help you understand your feelings a little better. It will also help you to get deeper into your characters.

No-one exists in a feelings vacuum. As your protagonist walks down the street or enters a room his/her mind is working on something. Maybe it’s annoyance at a sale that was lost, worry about the kids, or weight gain or missing a train or plane, or it’s pleasure as they look forward to…

You get the picture. Their feelings show in gesture, posture, hand movements. It only takes the shortest phrase but it brings the reader right into the interior of the character. It shows how this character reacts, and will react in future, it links their past to their future.

It doesn’t matter that she’s wearing a blue top or he has neatly combed hair. What matters is the inner workings of this interesting mind.

Which brings us back to – how are you feeling? Practice this awareness – it’s part of your writing skill.

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We’ve all heard grandpa’s stories of walking miles to school, all uphill. We roll our eyes and say to each other, “Yup, and it was uphill both ways”.

But if we are to expect our children and their children to understand the world our grandparents lived in we have to look at the expectations that were placed on them. Through our questions we must try to understand that earlier world, both for ourselves and for those younger than us. For them it is an even stranger existence to imagine.

We can recall all the comments: That a mile or two was nothing much to walk, even in a prairie winter. That older kids looked out for younger ones. That the teacher was always right. That children didn’t interrupt their elders, (and that’s if they got to speak at all). That your neighbours were Mr and Mrs Smith and not Bill and Maureen.

What did it feel like to struggle through snow and cold before and after school? How did you dry your wet clothes? How was the classroom heated? What if you were little and you couldn’t keep up to the older kids? Did you ever get the strap? In front of all the other kids?  Why did your parents read a chapter from the Bible every night?

That, as children, our grandparents did not have television, computers, cell phones is common enough knowledge. It’s fact. Ways of thinking, feelings and beliefs are harder to get across. What was it like to have neighbours listen in on a party line? Who was the first person you knew who had a television set? When you first got a TV, what did you like to watch? Who chose what you would listen to on the radio? What would you have rather listened to? And why? The ‘why’ will reveal character.

What customs did you have that sound impossible now? (“As kids, we couldn’t open our Christmas gifts till grandma had had her second cup of tea. And she drank so slowly!”) Tell me about meal times? Who was served first? What was your favourite meal of the week?

If grandparents have lived through the Depression, it would be interesting to ask how life changed for them then, and what they might have learned from it. Was their father out of work? How did mom keep the family together? If they lived through war time they will have had experiences that shaped them. “What was it like when your dad was away? Did your mom go out to work then?”

There is little point in asking an older person questions, such as “Why were older people so much respected then?” You’ll get an answer like “Well, they just were. That’s the way it was”. Only a sociologist could answer the question.  This is the time for questions that start “How did you feel about… What did you like/not like about…”

Often the ‘feeling’ and ‘liking’ questions elicit details that you can expand on to get a deeper picture of the life and times. Put yourself in the shoes of the kid in too-big snow boots, or waiting for a letter from dad in the Army. How do you think he feels?

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